rude and immoral behavior towards parents. Some people consider the act of caring for and raising their parents as a burden. This leads to:
If you don't eat, you will be sick and thin.
Eating then tears filled the bowl of rice.
Or:
Parents raise their children with all their might, Children raise their parents every day.
In marital relationships, moral standards such as affection,
Loyalty and harmony are also being disrupted. Currently, the divorce rate of many couples in the family is increasing.
Thus, globalization and international integration have affected the homogeneity in the traditional family structure, as well as changed some ethical standards of traditional families, giving rise to many types of families. To preserve the beauty of ethical values in traditional families and develop in accordance with the requirements of modern society, we need to know how to inherit the legacy of the past to create a premise for the present.
Chapter 1 Summary
The family is the oldest but most enduring social institution. It is the basic institution, the cell that makes up society, the most important form of organization in individual life based on marital relations and blood relations, that is, between husband and wife, between parents and children, between siblings and other relatives.
Family ethics is the sum of principles and standards that regulate the behavior and relationships of family members to ensure family stability and development in accordance with social requirements.
Family ethics is one of the basic factors that create stability, prosperity, and happiness of a family. Family ethics has an interactive relationship with social ethics. Family ethics regulates the behaviors and relationships of people in the family, but the principles and standards of family ethics reflect the requirements of society.
The family is the cell of society and also a social institution. The family both creates society and changes with the development of society. In the period of international integration in Vietnam, along with the strong changes of the whole society, the family is also changing comprehensively. Due to the change in relationships and social value systems in the context of globalization, the problem of implementing the educational function of the family is also facing many opportunities and challenges.
The pressure of modern life is making many parents lack time, energy and even intelligence to care about personality education in general, moral education, lifestyle education in particular for their children. In the face of the situation in society where more and more children have immoral behavior, commit crimes, including very dangerous crimes, the responsibility of the family in moral education, lifestyle for the younger generation is becoming an issue that needs the attention of the whole society.
The family plays an important role in moral education for the younger generation, which is something that no parent can deny. Our country's culture is a culture that values family. With education in traditional families, many generations of Vietnamese have grown up, knowing how to respect etiquette, righteousness, love, loyalty, responsibility, and sacrifice for a greater cause... and such people have created many great achievements for the country. The above qualities are moral values that any social era needs. However, as society develops and the living environment changes, Vietnamese people have changed their perception of life values, while also revealing certain limitations in the educational methods of traditional families.
The process of international integration and openness is increasingly deep, with social networks as a means of quick and widespread connection, the value system of the young generation changes and diversifies thanks to the ability to access a lot of information and many types of values around the world. The change in the value system of each individual leads to the young generation having new demands on the way of behaving.
Chapter 2
MORAL EDUCATION IN VIETNAMESE FAMILIES IN THE PERIOD OF INTERNATIONAL INTEGRATION - CURRENT SITUATION AND SOLUTIONS
2.1. Current status and causes of moral education in Vietnamese families in the period of international integration
2.1.1. The current status of moral education in Vietnamese families in the current period of international integration
Our Party has recognized the advantages and difficulties in international integration, so in the Document of the 10th Congress, it affirmed: "Proactively integrate into the international community, while expanding international cooperation in other fields. Vietnam is a friend and reliable partner of countries in the international community, actively participating in the process of international and regional cooperation" [74, pp. 650-651]. From this awareness, our Party has paid attention to education in general and family education in particular. Our Party has affirmed the fundamental innovation of education and training, considering education and training as the top national policy in socio-economic development.
Caring for the family and paying attention to family education are important contents in the documents of the Party congresses. The Resolution of the Fifth Conference of the Party Central Committee, Session VIII, also discussed the responsibility of the family in preserving and promoting the good morals of the Vietnamese family, highlighting the exemplary role of parents, attaching importance to building a cultural family, and building a close relationship between the family, school and society. At the 9th National Congress, the Party once again emphasized family values. The family is the home of each person and a healthy cell of society, responsible for building and nurturing its members to have a healthy and cultured lifestyle.
Our Party has recognized the advantages and difficulties in international integration, so in the Document of the 10th Congress, it affirmed: "Proactively integrate internationally, while expanding international cooperation in other fields.
Vietnam is a friend and trusted partner of countries in the international community, actively participating in the process of international and regional cooperation" [47, pp. 650-651]. From the awareness, our Party has paid attention to education in general and family education in particular. Our Party has affirmed the fundamental innovation of education and training, considering education and training as the top national policy in socio-economic development. The Platform for national construction in the transition period to socialism (Supplemented and developed in 2011) also affirms the building of a prosperous, progressive, and happy family, which is an important environment, directly educating lifestyle and forming personality. The family plays an important role in each person's life as well as in the survival and development of the nation and people, thanks to the cultural values passed down through generations by the family. It is a system of specific values and norms that regulate the relationships between family members and the relationship between family and society; reflecting the nature of family forms characteristic of different communities, ethnic groups, peoples and regions, formed and developed over a long history, associated with certain economic development conditions, natural environment and society.
Besides the awareness of the Party and the State, the role of grandparents and parents in educating children in ethics in the family is very important and necessary. When studying the issue of parents' awareness of the role of educating children in ethics in the family, the following results were obtained:
Table 1 : Importance of moral education in the family
Level
Very important | Important | Not important | |
Quantity | 161 | 39 | 0 |
Frequency | 80.5 | 19.5 | 0 |
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Looking at the table above, we see that 80.5% of respondents think that moral education for children is very necessary, while the remaining 19.5% think that moral education is not.
again said: " Necessary ". Through the data, we can see that the majority of parents are aware of the importance of moral education in the family. In educating young children, the role of the family is very important, especially moral education, education of manners, and kindness when children are young. When asked why he (she) thinks moral education for children is necessary. We obtained the following results: 60 people said that "this is the age that needs moral education" and 90 people said that " Children are like blank sheets of paper, like young trees, so we must shape them from a young age. Teach them to eat, to speak, to wrap, to open..."; Some parents believe that children are the future of the country, children need to be educated comprehensively, and moral education is the core of personality.
This shows that parents have a correct understanding of the role of moral education for their children and they also explain it with many different reasons. However, they all agree that moral education in the family is important to help children perfect their personality and especially for children who are still at an age where they are easily molded and taught to follow their parents' instructions. Moral education in the family is very important during the period when children are groping for everything, learning everything, learning how to behave and communicate with people around them, for the world around them is a new thing. Therefore, when parents are aware of how to educate their children, they see that children need to know the necessary ways of behaving so that when they go out into society, they will not be surprised when communicating with people in society.
With the same question above, but with children of older ages, specifically teenagers, we also received the following opinions: At this age, most of the children have grown up, have relatively good thinking and perception, they are no longer children but not yet adults. At this age, children really like to become adults and therefore they often imitate the actions of adults, including bad actions such as imitating smoking.
smoking, drinking alcohol... Therefore, at this age, parents need to pay attention to moral education for their children.
Through that, we see that parents have a relatively accurate perception of moral education for their children in adolescence. According to psychologists, adolescence is the most difficult age to educate, the "rebellious age" . At this age, there are changes in psychology and physiology, "Temporary imbalance", so in moral education, we must educate the qualities and abilities so that children are always self-conscious in performing moral actions.
Recognizing the role of moral education in the family, parents also affirm their own importance in the process of moral education for their children. There are many methods to educate morality in the family, but the method of setting an example is the most effective. In the family, parents should be a good example for children to follow. This is a decisive principle, of great importance to educational work. Children are very sensitive and often imitate, so parents must first set an example from their gestures, words to actions... Parents who answered the survey showed that they also agreed with the view that "parents need to learn to be parents". This is shown in the following ratio: 92.5% of people agreed with the above view, 5% of the subjects were still wondering and 2.5% had opposing opinions, disagreeing with the view that "parents must learn to be parents".
The above results show us: Most parents are aware of their importance in educating their children in morality, because they believe that "We need to learn how to be parents" and most of them explain that: "In addition to being born parents, we need to learn how to be parents to raise and guide our children" . Also because, not everyone is born knowing how to be a parent.
Here are the respondents' explanations for the answer "Agree to learn how to be a parent" . This shows us that they are all aware of it.
is to learn to be a parent. However, there are still 6% who are hesitant about whether to learn to be a parent or not? They answered "Hesitate" and they explained that I do not know whether to learn or not, but perhaps learning will lead to better education. There are also 3% who "Disagree" that to learn to be a parent, they explained that being a parent is innate, so there is no need to learn. However, this is not the majority who think so, it is just a minority. That proves that there are still people who have the wrong way of thinking about educating their children, they think that there is no need to learn, but still educate their children to be good people. But moral education is an important issue today, when many moral values are not respected. Therefore, parents really need to know and understand the importance of moral education for their children. Because this is a very favorable age for moral education, when they do not know much and have not encountered society.
However, besides the achievements, family education for their children still has some issues that are worth concern. That is, moral education and lifestyle for children have not received due attention in some families, especially families in the city. Many parents are busy with work so they do not pay much attention to moral education and lifestyle for their children; do not care about building a cultural lifestyle for them. Many families are still indifferent in teaching their children how to behave, respect themselves and others, be tolerant, generous, altruistic... Therefore, the situation of children living a loose life, not valuing family moral values has been happening in many places. The results of a practical investigation in Hanoi show that: over 70% of children who are bad and have social evils are due to the circumstances and educational methods of the family [33]. According to another survey, 74% of parents answered that: if a child is spoiled, the first fault lies with the family. At the same time, 50.7% of respondents agreed with the opinion: the person who has the greatest influence in educating children about ethics and lifestyle in the family